Baby Knows Best

September 17, 2017 at 8:42 pm





I like the sentiment behind the old saying “mother knows best.” I often see it used to encourage a mother to go with her gut when doctors, the media or authoritarian relatives are trying to convince her to do otherwise.

But more and more I see the phrase tossed around to console women who are reluctantly acting against their gut to keep up with the pressures of modern life — putting infants in daycare centers 45+ hours a week, letting them “cry it out” in cribs, or weaning before their ready.

The Natural Age of Weaning

August 23, 2017 at 8:25 pm





Mothers today are bombarded with all kinds of conflicting advice on how long they should breastfeed. Some are told it’s “gross” or “weird” to nurse beyond six or 12 months. Some consider nursing a 2 or 3-year-old to be “extended” breastfeeding.

How Praise and Rewards Can Be as Damaging as Punishment

March 31, 2017 at 7:58 pm

Parents of our generation are coming to understand that punishment is psychologically damaging and ineffective at improving children’s behavior. But many of us who’ve condemned spanking and solitary confinement (time-outs/grounding) are still unaware of the damage created by a more insidious form of control – rewards and praise.




While a “good job” here and an “atta boy” there seem harmless enough, psychologist Robin Grille says praising or “rewarding children’s compliance is the flip-side of punishing their disobedience.”

In other words, they are two sides of the same coin.

Photo Showing Breast Milk Killing Harmful Bacteria Goes Viral

February 10, 2017 at 9:31 am




A photo showing droplets of breast breast milk fending off armies of harmful bacteria in Petri dishes is going viral on Facebook.

The photo, posted by a biology student in England, features nine Petri dishes completely colonized with the bacteria M. Luteus, except in the center, where tiny puddles of breast milk have created what looks like “moats” of protection around themselves.

The student, Vicky Green, said she had similar results with Petri dishes full of e.Coli and the dreaded anti-biotic resistant “super bug” MRSA.

Co-sleeping Contributes to Optimal Brain Development

November 14, 2016 at 7:51 pm

Pediatrician recommends babies sleep with their mothers at least three years for optimal brain development; says babies who sleep in cribs have smaller brains and insecure attachment





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Like all mammals, humans have been sleeping with their babies for millions of years. Babies have an innate desire to stay in constant contact with their caregivers for survival.

Modern Stay-At-Home Motherhood Might Be the Loneliest Job on Earth

July 8, 2016 at 2:29 am

Asked how many hours of adult interaction they got per week – not including their spouses – one in four stay-at-home moms said ZERO. The isolation of modern motherhood is driving more and more of us to figure out how to recreate the tribe




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The vast majority of stay-at-home moms surveyed in Facebook moms’ groups say they get little-to-no interaction with adults other than their spouses and grocery store clerks on a weekly basis.

Of the 52 moms who responded, nearly 90 percent said they had no local family or friends (other than paid babysitters) – to help them raise their children.

Nearly half (46 percent) said they spent an hour a week or less in the presence of other adults, and more than 80 percent said they spent less than five.

The average amount of time spent interacting with other adults (including grocery store clerks, gas station attendants, mailmen, waving neighbors, and strangers at parks) was just under 3 hours per week.

Beautiful Photos of Mammals Safely “Co-Sleeping” with Their Babies, As They’ve Done for Millions of Years

May 13, 2016 at 8:11 pm

The term “co-sleeping” has always seemed strange to me. It implies parents are doing something special or out-of-the-ordinary by doing what mammals have always done for millions of years – sleep with their babies.




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“Are you going to co-sleep?” people asked when I was pregnant. “What kind of co-sleeper are you going to buy?”

At first, I had no idea what they were talking about. Then I became aware of the vast market of overpriced baskets parents could buy to ensure they didn’t “roll over and kill their babies:”

“Spanking” Children Is Domestic Violence

April 30, 2016 at 4:50 am

Spanking causes long-term psychological damage, according to “the most comprehensive study to date”




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While the average American would look at you like you were crazy if you said it was okay for a man to hit his wife if she didn’t obey him, that same person would likely argue that hitting – or “spanking” – children is not only acceptable, but advisable for producing “well-behaved, functioning” members of society.

This not only defies logic, it defies science.

Why I Sometimes Wish I’d Had an Abortion

March 7, 2016 at 4:53 pm




422508_10151380249240106_318511931_nIn a previous blog post, I wrote about how having a baby changed my mind about abortion. The hardship of four years of unplanned parenthood made me change my former staunch pro-life position.

But in this post, I want to be even more explicit. It’s not just that I now support women’s right to choose as some sort of abstract ideology. I actually often regret having a child myself. Especially lately.

I recently posted on Facebook about four abused, neglected siblings who are up for adoption as a package deal. Who knows, maybe their parents were great and CPS just kidnapped them for no reason. But that’s beside the point. The point is there are basically zero happy, healthy, financially-prepared, functioning families out there willing to adopt four kids.

Circumcision is Child Abuse

March 2, 2016 at 8:06 pm

The people behind the knife should be behind bars for life





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Let’s not mince words about it. That’s what circumcision is – torture, sexual assault, genital mutilation, unconscionable child abuse, and possibly the most egregious violations of human rights in history.

I understand that this post is going to make a lot of people angry and uncomfortable and maybe cost me a few friendships, but that is not my intent. My intent is to shed light on one of the darkest secrets of all time – one I had basically no knowledge about until a few weeks ago.

The mother of an only-daughter, I’ve really had no reason to research circumcision, so I had no idea the horrors it entailed. One of the moms in our peaceful-parenting play-date group enlightened me in the park last week. She sent me a few links, and I dove in. What a can of worms…