More and more of my millennial friends are cutting ties, to various degrees, with their baby boomer parents.
Millennials – those born roughly between 1981 and 2000 — see baby boomers — born between 1946 and 1964 — as behind the times, closed-minded, controlling and sometimes emotionally abusive.
Now in our 20s and 30s, we were the first generation to have access to the internet (and thus virtually all the information in the world) by high school.
We feel smarter and more enlightened than our parents, and if not for their sheer numbers, like we could’ve made their politics and lifestyle obsolete by now.
Many of us have children of our own now and are trying to parent by our instincts rather than cultural norms. We’re turning back to nature with breastfeeding, baby wearing, cosleeping, healthy food and natural medicine, instead of blindly accepting what commercials try to sell us. Many of us don’t even watch commercials anymore.
Unlike our parents, our generation doesn’t see psychotherapy and self-help books as quackery. In fact, we are taking it to the next level with somatic therapy, hypnotherapy and psychedelic therapy.
We are trying to heal our inner children, evolve and become happy, fulfilled people who live not only for their children, but for themselves.
We are simultaneously focused on becoming “better” parents than our own, and struggling to create our own identities as autonomous individuals.
We’re having fewer children to help make this possible.
We’re sorting through thousands of years of myths, lies and propaganda, trying to find the truth about who we are, where we came from and what we are doing here.
We’re not afraid of facing our demons or our ugly past. We’re not afraid of admitting we’ve made mistakes. We’re not afraid to question everything. We’re not afraid to turn the ship around.
We’d rather acknowledge uncomfortable and inconvenient truths than race to oblivion, as your generation, and the generation before that, and the generation before that, have been doing since the dawn of civilization.
We don’t mean that to be hurtful. We love you and are grateful for everything you’ve given us. We’re even grateful for the mistakes you’ve made for us to learn from.
We’re just asking you to let go of the control, just a little bit, and let us try something new.
It’s hard for us to come up with new ideas if we’re spending too much time trapped in old, unhealthy patterns of relating to you.
No offense, but you were the source of much of our childhood trauma, just like your parents were the source of much of yours, and we will be the source of much of ours.
Of course we can work on healing that trauma and reconnecting, but part of that comes in taking space.
Each time we take space away from you, we learn more about what we really want and who we really are. We become more well-rounded and whole.
In the end, maybe we’ll find out we’re not all that different from you, flower children. But for now we need to experience our own revolution for the evolution of humanity.