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Dropping the Mask

September 13, 2017 at 9:40 pm





What’s the one the thing you’re afraid to tell someone? That one thing someone could use against you. Whatever it is, telling someone you trust could be the ticket to real, authentic intimacy. That’s what I was seeking out of a recent visit with my family.

I travel home once year for Christmas. It’s usually pretty awkward. My sister makes sure only politically correct topics are discussed at the dinner table. I usually go home disappointed by the lack of connection.

This year I was hoping things would be different. My partner, our daughter and I decided to make our annual trip the last week of summer for a change. I’d just made some pretty big life changes – selling my food truck and moving into a camper to travel the country for a while.

American Foot Binding

September 10, 2017 at 8:11 pm

Physical therapist says almost all of us have been practicing a less extreme version of Chinese foot binding




Americans are horrified when they learn about the ancient Chinese practice of foot binding — tightly wrapping the feet of young girls to drastically change the shape and size of their feet.

Why I Want to be My Child’s Best Friend

September 5, 2017 at 9:22 pm





“You can’t be your child’s friend and their parent,” my dad advised shortly after my daughter was born. My heart sank, because that’s what I’d always wanted him to be to me.

Polyamory Increases Testosterone, Makes You Live Longer

September 5, 2017 at 1:07 am





A 2007 study that didn’t get much publicity found that polyamorous people have higher testosterone levels than both single people and people in monogamous relationships.

It’s long been known monogamously married men have lower testosterone levels than (presumably more promiscuous) single men, but polyamourous men (and women!) in multiple committed relationships have the highest testosterone levels of all.

Road Trip to Nowhere: Day 1, Nashville

August 28, 2017 at 1:37 am





First day of our indefinite road trip to nowhere. Mixed feelings. I mostly feel happy, relieved, free.

But still a little anxious. Still have a ton of “busyness” deprogramming to do. Still have a hard time relaxing. Sitting still. Being present.

The Natural Age of Weaning

August 23, 2017 at 8:25 pm






Mothers today are bombarded with all kinds of conflicting advice on how long they should breastfeed. Some are told it’s “gross” or “weird” to nurse beyond six or 12 months. Some consider nursing a 2 or 3-year-old to be “extended” breastfeeding.

Waking Up From The American Nightmare

August 19, 2017 at 4:36 pm

Rewriting the American Dream




The American Dream is not a dream, it’s a nightmare, and it’s time to wake up.

The American Dream according to Wikipedia is “the opportunity for prosperity, success and upward social mobility … achieved by hard work in a society with few barriers…”

“‘Work hard, save a little, send the kids to college so they can do better than you did, and retire happily to a warmer climate’ is the script we have all been handed,” writes Lawrence Samuel in his book The American Dream.

The trouble is we rarely question what “better” means. Better than who? Europeans? Because we have bigger cars, bigger houses, faster food and work longer hours? Better than the few remaining gatherer-hunter tribes on the planet, who, until recent contact with civilization, lived in real-life Paradise?

Medieval Jewish Philosopher Reveals True Purpose of Circumcision

August 17, 2017 at 10:18 pm

To destroy sexual love




In his book A Guide for the Perplexed, famous Jewish rabbi, physician and philosopher Moses Maimonides, revealed what he and his 10th century peers believed to be the true purpose of circumcision – to destroy sexual love or “lust,” as he calls it.

Waking Up in the Dream

August 16, 2017 at 12:32 pm




It’s the same part of the dream I always wake up in. I just got out of class. I walk down the hall and three flights of stairs with the herd, anxiously pushing through the slow ones, until at last I fling open the double doors and skip down a few more steps to freedom.

The sun warms my air-conditioned skin, my lungs fill with fresh air, the palm trees sway in the breeze, and the birds are singing in my university’s beautifully landscaped gardens.

Elon Musk Worries Our Lives Won’t Have “Meaning” When Robots Take Our Jobs

July 25, 2017 at 10:15 pm




Most of the jobs in the world today will be done by robots in a couple of decades, Elon Musk predicted at a World Government Summit a few months ago.

No need to worry about unemployment though, Musk says, we will almost certainly all receive a universal basic income just for existing.

The real problem will be finding a sense of purpose or “meaning” when our labor becomes obsolete, he says: